Coping with a talented child

Coping with a talented child

Having a talented or gifted child can be exciting and rewarding, but it comes with some parenting challenges too…

Talented child

Sometimes it’s hard to remember that your talented child is still, well, a child. Although they may appear ahead of their years, they can be just as socially and emotionally immature as their same-age classmates.

It’s still important that the child learns the same rules as other children, when it comes to:

  • Being part of the family.
  • Learning to share and help others.
  • Seeing things from someone else’s point of view.
  • Taking turns leading and following.
  • Celebrating success and coping with failure.

Giving support

  • Be positive, not pushy: don’t put too much pressure on her.
  • Boost self-esteem: self-belief is not automatic among talented kids. Don’t tell him he is being silly when he doubts himself. Allow him to express his feelings and fears, and gently encourage him.
  • Keep it realistic. Let her share her goals with you. Encourage attainable ideals over perfection.
  • Praise effort, not results. A child should never feel valued only for what he can achieve. Effort is also a reward.
  • Spend quality time with your other children, too, or your gifted child could become resented by his siblings.
Joni van der Merwe

About Joni van der Merwe

Digital editor I’m getting married in 2018 and I think it’s the perfect time to focus on my relationship with not only my fiance but my friends, family and colleagues too. I want to nurture and cherish the people I love by being more understanding and present in their lives.


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