Strategies to stop yourself being drawn in…
As entertaining as it can be, office gossip can also be demotivating, demoralising and damaging. It can range from harmless banter about Jenny-in-account’s new hairdo and trivial office politics to more serious rumours of Christmas party hook-ups and possible retrenchments. Inciting or participating in gossip can become a nasty habit.
Try these strategies to stop yourself being drawn in…
- Staying connected with colleagues is important. Take part in general banter, but draw the line if the conversation turns to personal remarks about someone, or starts to undermine their credibility or likeability.
- Gossipers crave attention, and are prone to exaggeration. Their talk can be filled with innuendo, rumour and lies. Take what you hear with a pinch of salt. And if it’s about you, try not to react defensively. Rather deal with it decisively by stating the facts, and don’t dwell on it.
- Arm yourself with the facts. Before reacting to news, get the facts from people in a position to know them.
- Don’t participate. You belittle yourself and perpetuate it if you do. If you’re eyeing a promotion, know that gossiping is likely to mark you as a poor team player and a negative person.